Like a Thief in the Night

Rihanna is the only girl this sexy.

Isn't this all any woman wants? Like Rhianna asks, to be entered like a "thief in the night"?
Or, as her next line goes, does the modern woman want to be "Held Like A Pillow"?
Are these two desires mutually opposing, or happily complementary? Isn't this all anyone really wants? To feel like "the only girl in the world" and for you to "last all night"?

And where on earth are they living for Drake to suggest he can do things to her in 20 minutes while waiting for the traffic: where on earth does the city traffic take 20 minutes to clear? Hobart? They clearly aren't in Sydney where the traffic takes 2 hours to clear and the radio would not be considered appropriate foreplay, not with Kyle Sandilands at large.

On a darker note, according to pop culturalist Dr Carr-Gregg, watching film clips by that "skank" Rihanna or the Pussycat dolls will lower a girl's self esteem markedly. This is shocking to me, because when i watch Rihanna, usually at the gym, I feel extremely joyful and proud. I see a strong powerful woman. I see a woman in charge of her own sexuality. I mean, no one was out there says how dangerous Borat was to young bois sense of self esteem, were they? 

Or more seriously, noone says the sexiness of Kanye and Neyo in film clips is causing an crises in Our Young Men. No. Noone said that. Because it's patently untrue. I'm sure if boys look up and see Kanye cavorting around with his gals they probably think good on him, and I hope I get to be like that one day. Or more likely, what a wanker.
It's the same for girls. When I see Rhianna performing a lap dance for a fan I think wow, she's fantastic, what a great dancer. And her voice is out of this world. I actually think she's the most talented female vocalist of our era. Maybe I also think "it would be nice to be that girl she's dancing with". But does my self esteem take a shot? No. No, it does not.

I am a grown woman, and these film clips are meant for me. Not for ten year olds and I admit they are rather pornographic. I guess it would be a bit exciting to see Rhianna give a lap dance if you were only 12. But upsetting? Confidence shattering? Causing you to start starving yourself? I hope not! I'll be using clips as a tool for teaching my daughter how to dance, or how to make a short film, as they should be used.

Dr Carr-Gregg believes increases in eating disorders, anxiety and depression in teenage girls are linked to raunch culture. I'd say it's linked to growing up in a cultural vacuum like the northern beaches of Sydney, but that's just me...